Anything But Gray

There is this professor who claims to be able to predict, with a very high accuracy rate (94%), if a couple will last. And not only can he predict that, he can also predict when the couples that don't last will break up. He has studied couples extensively and developed a calculus equation based on his studies (700 couples over 14 years).
Yes, a calculus equation…
This is funny to me but you can't scoff at an accuracy rate like that.

This is absolutely fascinating to me. First of all, I'm all about self-analyzing. I could take those kinds of quizzes all day long if you let me. But I think I also find it so fascinating because I'm pretty certain that if Zak and I had been analyzed at the beginning of our marriage we would've been told we wouldn't last. We were both so young when we got married and we both had big "issues". And I didn't love him in the way I grew up thinking you would love the one you married. He didn't make my heart go in a frenzy when he was close. He made my heart feel comfortable and safe. I didn't see stars when he kissed me, but I saw my future. What's funny is now, even after 16 years together, he makes my heart go crazy, (granted, sometimes it's because I want to kill him, but whatever…that's not what we're talking about right now.)  now when he kisses me, it makes my heart race and head spin. But it wasn't like that in the beginning. The best way I have to describe it is the saying.."Love is friendship set on fire." That was the way I loved him, in the beginning. He was like my best friend that I got to have sex with and how friggin' cool is that?? lol. And he made me laugh….he has always made me laugh so hard. And really, that is still how I love him. He's truly my best friend. I just wonder how we would've been analyzed. Would they have been able to get us right. I don't think so, but who knows.

Even now, I wonder if we were to be analyzed would they get us right. In so many ways we are a typical couple but in a lot of ways, we about as far from typical as you can get. And we have our times when we're so not working, but we plow through it and in the end we work, for us. And we are doing something really right. Of all we screw up, of all the mistakes we make, one thing we do right…is us. And we're fun. People like us, as a couple, which is such a good feeling. We can go out to a bar and by the end of the night, we will have a "following". lol. That sounds horribly conceited, let me rephrase…we'll just have people move to our table and hang with us all night. And they love it. And we love it. Because we're just being us. Our flip-each-other-shit typical selves. It's a nice feeling….a very fun feeling. I wish I could bottle it up and sell it because we'd make a fortune.
Actually, now that I type that, over the past week or so, I keep thinking I should start a blog, for us. Just because we are so real, funny, laid back and we have something to offer. A 15 year marriage that is working…and if we made just one person laugh or if one couple took something from us and made their marriage work just a little bit better….how cool of a feeling would that be??

Hmm…something to think about, anyway.
Cause I don't have enough to do.
ha!